Relationship vs. Career:::How to Keep Your Job From Interfering With Your Relationship
“Time is money.” Everyone says it, everyone knows it, and everyone agrees that it generally is intended to mean one of two things:
1. If you’re not doing something productive, you’re wasting your time. or
2. You cannot expect anyone else to spend their time for you without pay.
As for me the phrase time is money has a deeper connotation than that:::which i feel many people often miss because they are distracted by the word “Money.”
“Money” calls to mind a stack of bills. We consider it synonymous with ‘currency’ and this risks making us miss the broader point entirely.
Currency is the thing we use to pay for food, to pay for housing, to pay for insurance, for cars, for toys, for school tuition. It is the root of all evil, it won’t buy you happiness, and it is not, in fact, the only form of Money that we know. One form of Money, the form perhaps most precious to us and to those we love, is Time.
Yes, time is money too, but money is also time.
A man or woman who leaves themselves no time at the end of the day, may earn much Currency, yet find themselves robbed of quality time to spend. It is all too easy to fall into this trap. Perhaps your boss simply doesn’t want to train another employee, so your working hours begin to go into overtime. or Maybe you just enjoy your job/business so much you don’t want to leave it.
And If you don’t like your work, you may have more troubles to deal with, as the stress over the course of a day at work builds up and turns you into someone without control, since you can’t vent those feelings at work, so you go home and scream into a pillow, or perhaps punch a tree a few times.
Where you run into trouble is if you vent those feelings at your significant other, or at your children. You are home, in your castle, and you don’t feel like holding it in anymore. You may be spending time with your family, friends or lover, but is the time you spend for them, or for you?
And therein lies the crux of the problem. To keep our relationships healthy outside work, we must have time to spend on them, and that time must be our time. If someone is spending all of her or his time soaking up the hurt you have inside you because of a bad day at work, then you are lucky (Really lucky. To have someone in your life willing to do this makes you a lucky man or woman). But such time is not you spending time on them, it is them spending time on you. Our work interferes with our relationships in proportion to the amount which we allow it to degrade the quality of the time we spend on those relationships.
We must give back at least what we get in time, or the relationship will suffer harm.
Fortunately, not all time is created equal. Depending on the person, a romantic night out::may be dinner may be a weeks worth of all the stress you bring home from work. If the amount of Time you have to spend on your relationship is limited, you can compensate for this by increasing the quality of that time (for them).
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